Sunday, November 23, 2014

10 Simple Mentoring Ideas




Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
~ Titus 2:3-5

The word mentoring has taken on a whole new meaning in our modern day evangelical churches.  If we look at the passage in Titus 2 above that serves as a guide for what mentoring should entail in a relationship with an older woman and a younger woman, it doesn't seem to be so complicated.

Mentoring doesn't necessarily mean doing a bible study together (it can but it doesn't have to).  The younger women in our lives need discipleship from us in the areas of marriage, family and home keeping.

Is there a younger woman you can mentor?  If you have daughters, you already have women in your home to mentor.

Younger women, can you look to an older woman in your church who you admire their walk with the Lord, their family life and their marriage that you would like to glean from? Have you ever thought to ask her if she would take the time to meet with you and mentor you?

Older women don't be concerned at what this undertaking may mean to you because the time is minimal and the blessings are many.  The younger women in our lives need us to pour truth into their hearts and share practical living skills.

10 Simple Ideas to Get You Started:

1. Pray and see who the Lord is leading you to mentor.  Seek out a younger woman and if you're a younger woman, seek out an older woman.  

2.  Determine how often you will meet on a regular basis.

3.  Let her live life with you as you go about your normal cooking, cleaning, menu planning, scheduling, caring for your children and your every day tasks.

4.  Let her see how you and your husband interact. What does a Christ honoring Christian marriage look like lived out on a daily basis amidst the normal daily struggles we have.  How do you and your husband handle conflict?  What does submission look like?

5. Love on her, laugh with her and just enjoy being together.

6.  Share resources with her that have benefitted your Christian walk.

7.  Read a Christian book on biblical womanhood together and chat about it over coffee.  There are some great Christian Homemaking blogs that offer good articles to discuss together too.  

8.  Take the time to listen to her concerns and questions and continue to point her to Christ.

9.  Teach her how to study God's Word for herself.

10.  Encourage her to pass on what she is learning to a younger woman in her life.

These are just a few ideas but the hope is to get you thinking of how you can be intentional in mentoring the younger women the Lord has placed in your life.

What are some ideas or ways you have mentored the younger women in your life?  
How have you been mentored by an older woman?  




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Friday, November 21, 2014

Weekend Nuggets - Favorite Family Thanksgiving Traditions, Simple Thanksgiving Outreach Idea, Hindrances to Joy, Are you a Big Girl?, Getting Over Cliques and Much More!


Weekend Reading:


Sharing Favorite Family Thanksgiving Traditions - "Sharing some of our favorites with you from food to books to music that we have enjoyed over the years in celebrating Thanksgiving."

Four Reasons Time Management is More Difficult Now Than in the Past - "I recently saw a comment on a blog post questioning whether our world is so much more complex than it used to be (did our grandparents live in “a simpler time”?), if they actually had less work, or whether there is something wrong with us."

What it Means to be a Big Girl - "When you find the Big Girl inside, you find the person who feels at home in her own skin, who accepts her circumstances as the place of God’s pleasure, and who has the skills to maneuver through this life with wisdom from above. You find the woman who can live life with purpose and passion. That’s what this life with God is all about."

All of us fall short, and yet He waits, with love  - "Are not we all prodigals, in different ways, leaving the generous love and mercy of our God, thinking something else will satisfy.
And yet, all of us disappoint, fall short, live selfishly, unworthy of his love. All of us."

John MacArthur on Helps and Hindrances to Joy - "It is my understanding of the character and nature of God that anchors my joy.”

How to Get Over Cliques & Get Real Community - "We can fight to find a way in or we can love on the women where we’re at. We can obsess over who didn’t talk to us or we can focus on the woman we’re talking to. We can keep looking for a seat at a more popular table or we can pass the bread basket and an introduction to the women sitting right where we already are."


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What I'm Reading This Week:

 Big Girls Don't Whine by Jan Silvious 




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Simple idea from a friend on sharing the gospel in your community this Thanksgiving Season:

"At Thanksgiving time make some cookies with your kids and take them to your local police or fire department. Use this free card I created a couple of years ago to say 'Thank you,' and also to share the gospel with these brave men and women."  ~ Anna Jackson




"When feelings become more important than faith, people will become more important, and God will become less important." ~ Edward Welch




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Friday, November 14, 2014

Weekend Nuggets - Can Leftovers Make You Sick?, Free Christmas Planner, When to Say No, She is a Public Nuisance, Politeness and Prayer and Much More!


Some Good Reads & Resources for your Weekend:

Can Leftovers Make You Sick? - "Sometimes we think of the refrigerator as some sort of cryogenic chamber that’s capable of keeping food fresh indefinitely. Stew from last week? No problem – it’s been in the fridge. Turkey slices left over from the pitch-in – what day was that, anyway? Leftover veggie pizza slices that got pushed to the back? Sure! But even at a chilly 40 degrees, mold and bacteria (both gram-positive and negative) can thrive."

Free Busy Mom's Christmas Planner - Handy tool over at Money Saving Mom.

She is a Public Nuisance - "My neighbor is a public nuisance. It’s official, actually. She has been declared a nuisance which means the police are no longer obligated to respond to her phone calls. And she calls them a lot."

Young women at home, hear me - Some encouragement for stay at home moms.


Is Politeness Killing Your Prayer Life? - "Christians in North America are generally polite pray-ers. We tend to pray correct, respectful words that we think God wants to hear. But let's be honest, many of our prayers are tentative, repetitive, and somewhat boring."

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What We're Reading Together as a Family:  Jesus Unmasked by Todd Friel

What I'm Reading:  The Hardest Peace by Kara Tippetts - (This is a must read ladies.  Kara blogs at Mundane Faithfulness about her and her family's journey in dealing with stage 4 cancer and how she shares the reality of God's grace and love through her trials).  

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Wretched Radio has a new resource coming out to aid you in sharing the gospel in your sphere of influence.  The Biggest Question - Why comes out November 19th and we are enclosing copies in our Christmas Cards this year. Get some to keep on hand to share in your gifts and cards.  


Top Viewed Posts at the Blog this Week:




No evangelism that omits the message of repentance can properly be called the gospel, for sinners cannot come to Jesus Christ apart from a radical change of heart, mind, and will. That demands a spiritual crisis leading to a complete turnaround and ultimately a wholesale transformation. It is the only kind of conversion Scripture recognizes.~ John MacArthur





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Thursday, November 13, 2014

Biblically Dealing With Our Sinful Struggles


The term authentic Christian seems to be overtaking everything.  We want to be real and honest with our struggles and that is a good thing but as a Christian God's Word doesn't just leave us there.

My husband is one of my best friends to spur me on to love and good deeds.  When I'm having a difficult season or letting my emotions rule he is quick to bring me back to the truths of God's Word.  He sympathizes with me whatever the struggle is but he doesn't leave me wallowing in my own self pity or sinfulness.

He gently and firmly takes me to the truths of God's Word.  You know what, I do the same for him.  We can listen and can share our own struggles in a specific area but we need to bring it back to the Word.

 For sin will have no dominion over you, since you are not under law but under grace.
Romans 6:14

See, we are no longer under the law as believers in Jesus Christ but under grace.  Sin doesn't rule me anymore.  I have a new identity as a Christian and have the power of the Holy Spirit to overcome sin.

I am not saying we will never sin.  Yes, we will still sin and sadly we do a lot (1 John 1:9).

You think you don't sin a lot? Well, how often is the Lord the first priority of all your thoughts? Just spend a moment in your mind to see what it is dwelling on?  Anger? Jealousy? Comparison? Frustration? Not thinking good of others? Thinking you're better than others? - see, we sin a lot.

God has given us all that we need in Christ to overcome our sin.  We must confess and repent and don't stay in that sinful state.  Keep fighting the good battle of the faith.  Spur one another on to love and good deeds.  Keep memorizing scripture (especially in areas you struggle) to bring your mind back to truth.

The next time your friend or spouse or child comes to you with an area of struggle, listen, sympathize and bring the conversation back to the Word of God.  The Bible is the only source of hope and truth in all situations of life we will face here on this earth.  Take the time to pray for one another right at that moment.  


"Don’t think when I get to heaven that I’m most looking forward to a new body, free of cancer and quadriplegia. I’m mostly looking forward to the new heart! The glorified heart, free of sin, selfishness, fear of everything … free, free, FREE!"
 ~ Joni Eareckson Tada ~




Related Articles:
The Sin of Selfishness
How Do You Handle Correction?
Overcoming Self Pity


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Monday, November 10, 2014

A Letter to My Younger Self



As I am edging closer to being half a century old, I wanted to share some of the thoughts that go through my mind as I look back over the years of my marriage and raising our family.  There are so many good memories and things I wouldn't change but there are many things I wish I would have grasped at a younger age.  

My husband and I didn't come to faith in Christ until later in life (read my testimony here or listen to it here). So many times I can bog myself down with regrets, but I am quick to be brought back to the truth that we serve a God who is in control of all things and sovereign over everything.  God is always faithful even when we have not been faithful.  

I still have so much to learn and the items in the letter are not in any order of importance but just flowed as I pondered over the past years.  

So if I could go back here are some of the most important things 
I would like to tell my younger self:


To My Younger Self,

As I think back to over thirty years ago, I couldn't have imagined to be where I am today.  It is all by God's grace and His goodness in saving me as His child. Beautiful grown children who love and are known by Him, cherished grandchildren and being married to a man that I grow more in love with every day.  Life has gone by so fast and I praise the Lord for the gift of another day to cherish all that He has blessed me with.  

As I'm looking back with much joy and sometimes with much regret, I want to share with you some of the things I wished someone would have told me or even more so that I might have listened when they did tell me.

It is interesting how the majority of these words of wisdom are based on the truths in God's Word - they are timeless and perfect.   

How I wish this one would have been grasped early and I am still learning daily to grasp it. Don't compare yourself to others - ever - be content with who God created you to be.  God created you with your likes, preferences and quirks that no one else has.  Remember to live your life pleasing the Lord and not man.  When we fear man, we give others the power over us to tell us how to think, live and what to do.  God and His ways are better - always.  Don't change to please others.  Spend more time studying God's Word so you are better equipped to live a life that pleases and glorifies Him.  Time in His Word is one area that you can never get enough time with.  (Proverbs 29:25)

Learn to give thanks in and through all circumstances.  Even the difficult trials, these are areas of huge growth and are really blessings from the Lord in order to continue to form you more into His image. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

Deal with issues and difficulties immediately.  Don't let baggage linger.  Talk with people and resolve any problems or disagreements to the best of your ability. (Romans 12:18)

People will let you down and fail you.  Everyone has issues - you have issues and you will let people down.  There is only One who can meet all your needs.  Seek Him first in all things.  (Matthew 6:33, Romans 3:23)

Forgive much, if you are in Christ, you have been forgiven much. (Luke 7:47)

Offer much grace to others as you have been given much grace.  Remember you have only walked in your own shoes and not someone else's. (Ephesians 2:8-9)

Listen more and talk less.  Too many times all we hear is our own voice and we don't even realize others around us have good things to share with us.  Your opinion is not the only right opinion.  God's Word is the only standard of truth - not your personal preferences or choices.  (James 1:19)

Continue to ask the Lord to humble you.  Pride is ugly and damaging to relationships.  Pray for a broken heart and contrite spirit before the Lord. (Psalm 51:17 - meditate on all of Psalm 51).

Remember that you can't change anyone's heart - only God can. (Ezekiel 36:26)

Kindness overrules being right.  There was a saying I have remembered, "If you're right but you're rude than you're wrong".  Sin needs to be addressed in our homes and relationships but there is a biblical way to go about it.  (Romans 2:4, Matthew 18:15)

Continually pray to be dependent on the Lord and His ways.  Pray against being self-sufficient and thinking you can do it all on your own.  All things are from Him and through Him(Romans 11:33-36)

Create a home where others know they are loved unconditionally and there is nothing that can't be shared with each other.  Always let your children know they can tell you anything.  Give your children quantity of time and the quality of time will follow. They need your time and undivided attention.  Don't waste time preoccupied with lesser things instead of focusing on the things that really matter.  That time lost cannot be gained back but continue to learn and train yourself to give the gift of your time and undivided attention to others.  (2 Corinthians 4:18)

Some final thoughts as I close are to cherish every moment you have.  Those babies grow up faster than you can imagine and next thing you know you're walking them down the aisle.  We are not promised tomorrow so hold your husbands hand, smile at him more, kiss him a lot, truly cherish that man you have been given as a gift from the Lord.  Pray more and talk less.  Smile, laugh A LOT, have fun, and remember that a cheerful heart is good medicine (Proverbs 17:22).

Every day is a gift.  
God's mercies are new every morning.  
Focus on the eternal and not on the temporal.  
Point others to the Lord.  Tell others about the greatest gift they will ever know about - 

And most important - Put on Love:

12 Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, 13 bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. 14 And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. 15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. 17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.~ Colossians 3:12-17


Related Links:
Proud People vs. Broken People - Please print this out and keep in your Bible
Dealing with Our Critical Spirits
10 Questions to Ask Yourself at the Start of a New Year



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